Are you a GenX woman who spends a lot of time thinking about food?
Is there a voice in your head that tells you nasty things about your body?
Are you ready to say goodbye to diet culture?
Hi, I’m Wendy
A COUNSELLOR WITH A SOULFUL YET STRAIGHTFORWARD APPROACH.
YOU NEED HELP. I HAVE THE SKILLS AND EXPERIENCE TO HELP YOU.
I have an intimate understanding of what it is like to grow up in a world where your body doesn’t feel like your own. I started using food to cope with big feelings around the time of puberty and I have been in the trenches with self-loathing, binge and restrictive eating. It has been my life’s work to understand how we as women have come to a place where we carry so much shame for the simple act of putting food in our mouths and chewing. I have slowly and gently unshackled myself from this narrative and spent hours studying and researching how I could help other women to do the same.
In my years of working with women who struggle with food, I have found some common threads.
They tend to be people pleasers.
A people pleaser is someone who prioritizes others’ needs, feelings, and approval over their own, often to the point of self-neglect. They say yes when they want to say no, hide their true feelings to avoid conflict, and feel responsible for keeping others comfortable or happy.
At its root, people-pleasing is usually a survival strategy. It can form in childhood when love or safety felt conditional and tied to being “good,” agreeable, or invisible. Over time, it becomes a pattern: blending in, appeasing, shape-shifting. On the surface, it can look kind or generous, but underneath there’s often anxiety, resentment, or a loss of self.
People pleasers aren’t weak. They’re often hyper-attuned, emotionally intelligent, and deeply caring. But their worth becomes entangled with how others see them. The healing work is untangling that by learning to set boundaries, speak truth, and disappoint people without betraying yourself.
They have a strong inner critic.
An inner critic is an internal voice that judges, doubts, or demeans you. It often sounds like harsh self-talk, telling you you’re not good enough, you’re failing, or you’ll never get it right. It can show up in thoughts like “You should know better,” “You’re too much,” or “Who do you think you are?”
This part of you usually develops early in life, often as a way to protect you from rejection, shame, or punishment. It mimics the tone of authority figures, cultural expectations, or painful experiences. Over time, it becomes internalized and automatic. It’s running in the background and shaping how you see yourself.
The inner critic isn’t trying to ruin your life. It thinks it’s helping you avoid pain. But in reality, it keeps you stuck/disconnected from your strengths, your intuition, and your deeper truth. Recognizing it is the first step. Befriending it is the work.
Have you had enough of spending your precious life obsessing over food ?
Maybe you started dieting at a young age? Maybe your obsession with food started in your teens? Maybe it happened after you had babies?
One thing you know for sure is that you are sick of all of it.
You are desperate to have a better relationship with food.
But here’s the thing…
I don’t believe in good or bad relationships with food. Food is often the cover story—the thing we obsess over so we don’t have to look deeper. It takes up space in our minds, and steals our energy.
But underneath it?
That’s where the real work is: it’s in the stories we carry, the pain we’ve buried, and the parts of ourselves we’ve learned to silence.
Food isn’t the problem. It’s the smoke, not the fire.
If this feels like a space you’ve been needing…
Whether you’re ready to begin or just want to ask a few questions, I’m here when you want to take the first small step.